Woman on Solo Vacation Orders Vodka After Family Tries to Shame Her for Drinking Wine – AITA?
A young woman goes on a tranquil solo holiday to Tenerife, but things take a turn when she gets into a fight over personal freedoms and social conventions. She stays at an all-inclusive resort where she eats with other people. She sits at a shared table and starts her meal with a glass of wine. When a conservative family of five joins her and tells her they don’t like her drinking in front of their kids, things get tense. The mother says they don’t want their kids to see women drinking, and the father makes comments about her being alone.
Things get worse when the woman’s wine goes missing, and she finds out that the family lied when they said she was underage. She clears up the mistake with the hotel personnel and then chooses to take things to the next level by ordering a whole bottle of wine and vodka shots. Her brave answer makes the family leave, which leads to a discussion about personal rights, being respectful of other cultures in public places, and the morality of getting back at someone. Is she the bad guy for standing her ground, or is she just not ashamed of herself when on vacation? This novella explores the intricacies of vacation etiquette, public drinking conventions, and self-assertion under passive-aggressive criticism.
Some travelers bring their sunscreen and swimsuits on vacation, others bring their fake moral superiority and judgmental side-eyes
One woman is trying to enjoy her solo vacation with a glass of wine when a judgy family demands she stop drinking, so she orders more in return
You are not the bad guy; you done nothing wrong. Your reaction shows how silly the family’s request was since drinking was plainly a part of the resort culture. Here’s a list:
1. All-Inclusive Resorts = Drinks Are Part of the Package
When you book an all-inclusive resort in Tenerife, alcohol is part of the deal. Guests expect unlimited wine, beer, and cocktails by the pool or with dinner. Nobody books these packages thinking, “I hope no one drinks around my kids.” It’s unrealistic to expect vacationers to avoid alcohol in family spaces when the whole point of all-inclusive is relaxation.
2. Their “Concern” Was Hypocritical
This wasn’t really about the wine—it was about control. Like Bored Panda highlighted in a similar story, some families feel entitled to tell solo travelers how to behave. The truth? The family chose to sit at a shared table, knowing resort guidelines allow that. Then they tried to shame you and even involve staff. That says more about their passive-aggressive behavior than about your single glass of wine.
3. You Asserted Your Rights Calmly—With Humor
You didn’t lose your cool. You suggested they move tables if they were uncomfortable, and even when they falsely accused you of being underage, you handled it with patience. Then, instead of starting a fight, you made your point with humor—ordering a bottle of wine and vodka shots. It was cheeky, but it also sent a clear message: you’re not apologizing for enjoying your vacation perks.
4. Etiquette Is About Respect, Not Policing
Vacation etiquette isn’t about pushing your personal morals on others. Resorts don’t have rules like “no wine before 11 a.m.” or “no drinking near kids.” In fact, most adults enjoy beer or wine with meals at all-inclusives. You followed the resort’s rules; they stormed out. That’s on them, not you.
5. You Created Clarity, Not Conflict
You didn’t yell, demand special treatment, or make a scene. You simply used what the resort provided, gave them an option to leave, and enjoyed your holiday. Their choice to storm off only showed their own intolerance. In the end, you defended your right to relax without turning it into a public meltdown.
Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not a jerk for drinking alcohol as the family is entitled for demanding she stop
✅ Final Word: NTA
You did what you were supposed to. You calmly and clearly asserted your rights, and you didn’t hurt anyone—other than making someone else’s hypocrisy evident. They were the ones who picked drama. You only wanted a drink when you were on vacation. That’s great. 🍷
